How To Think Confidently
Self-confidence is extremely important in nearly every aspect of our lives, yet so many struggle with it. Sadly, this can be a vicious cycle: people who lack confidence will find it difficult to become successful. The good news is that self-confidence really can be learned and built on! And, whether you’re working on your own confidence or building the confidence of people around you, it’s well-worth the effort!
Recognise your talents
No matter how down you feel, try to remember the things you’re good at and your better attributes. This will distract you from your ‘flaws’ and boost your sense of worth. So think of your qualities in looks, friendship, and personality more often!
What stands in your way?
Write down the things you think are keeping you from becoming confident, e.g., introversion, fake friends or bad grades. Now ask yourself whether these things are valid or logical or not. So if the answer is ‘no’, either get rid of these things or keep focusing on the future, but don’t let things determine your self-worth!
Remember that everyone struggles with self-confidence
Even if some people are good at hiding it, nearly every person has struggled with self-confidence at one point. So you’re not alone! Confidence is rarely universal, so if you think of someone who’s confident, remind yourself the chances are high there’s a situation they’re not confident in, too. Also, stop comparing yourself to others, because not everything is a competition. So relax, you don’t have to be the smartest, the prettiest or the most talented person in order to be happy.
Confidence is a progress, not an achievement!
Having confidence isn’t a finish line you cross once, but several times in different situation. It also means the process won’t always move forward- it’s okay to have days where you feel you’re still at the beginning. In these times it’s good to be proud of you, even if you’ve gone a step back. This will help you keep going and remind you of the barriers you’ve already crossed.
Get out of your head
A lack of confidence has nothing to do with the external world, so you have to get out of your head. Also, in many cases, it’s only your inner voice that’s stopping you! If you catch yourself again having an inner dialogue, try to stop it. Constantly thinking of what you feel or look like takes you out of the moment. Concentrate what’s in front of you and stop thinking about the past and the future. Just live in the moment!